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Benjamin L. Corey

BLC is an author, speaker, scholar, and global traveler, who holds graduate degrees in Theology & Intercultural Studies from Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary, and received his doctorate in Intercultural Studies from Fuller. He is the author of Undiluted: Rediscovering the Radical Message of Jesus, and Unafraid: Moving Beyond Fear-Based Faith.

Please Stop Blaming Your Obnoxious Behavior On Jesus


When Jesus died on the cross, I believe he served as the ultimate scapegoat– exposing the evil within us by allowing us to pin it all on him. While being the scapegoat who shines a light on our own darkness was supposed to be a one-time-deal, 2000 years later I believe we’re still pinning a good deal of our bad behavior on Jesus.

While we profess Jesus with our lips, we’re still using those lips to spit on him. We’re still beating him up. We’re still lying about him. We’re still heaping all the blame on him instead of taking responsibility for our own behavior.

We’re still abusing Jesus– or as Paul called it, “crucifying him all over again.”

One of the ways I’ve noticed Jesus gets repeatedly crucified in Americanized Christianity is when Christians online make the claim that we “will be hated by the world.” While it’s true that Jesus did warn his disciples they’d be hated (all of them except John were executed), I believe that 99% of the time we quote this verse, we do so in order to blame Jesus for the fact that we’re being obnoxious.

While any passage of Scripture can be twisted and misused, I am shocked at how frequently we as Christians will falsely play the “world’s gonna hate us” card. And I’m even more shocked that we so often fail to see our own sinful intent when we do so.4853ce63d34e23c6b8da6c4d6c6eeadc

The basic logic goes like this:

(a) Everybody hated Jesus,

(b) Jesus said his followers would be hated too,

(c) If everybody hates me I’m doing something right.

Sadly, the misunderstanding of how this all works leads us as Christians to be complete jerks, and to be proud of it in the process. (I’ve also noticed it leads people to have a strange need for using a lot of exclamation points when they comment!!!!!!!)

It plays out in threads across the internet on a daily basis. Person A says something Christian B disagrees with, so Christian B lays into them with judgement, arrogance, unteachability, and an off-putting attitude. When called out on their ignorance or poor communication style, Christian B simply “dusts off their feet” and claims that the online push-back they’re getting is just further proof that disciples of Jesus will be hated.

Rinse. Lather. Repeat.

The process is repeated over and over because it’s convenient and it works: if you’re convinced everyone is going to hate you, you can treat people like crap and then blame it all on Jesus. You feel good because the darkness within you at least subconsciously wanted to treat people like crap, but you’ve now successfully adopted a religious narrative where the worse you treat people, the closer you get to God.

It’s sick but brilliant all at the same time.

Ultimately, many Christians end up hated– not because of Jesus– but because we’re too often jerks and completely unwilling to look at our own behavior.

I think this entire cycle is based upon the faulty premise that everyone hated Jesus. Not long ago I wrote a book on Jesus and pointed out what Scripture actually claims: that Jesus was so popular he couldn’t go anywhere without drawing a big crowd. It actually got so bad that Jesus had to set aside time to try to get away from them– because everyone was clamoring to be close to him.

However, Jesus was hated. And he did promise that following him you’d be hated too. But by who? Everyone?

That wasn’t the case with Jesus, so we shouldn’t assume that would be the case with us.

Following Jesus will get you hated by the same people who hated him: (a) the political authorities and (b) the religious conservative gatekeepers.

Jesus was seen as a threat to the political authorities because he taught people to live out the principles of a different Kingdom– one where the poor are blessed, where violence is rejected, and where the meek win in the end. In fact, the principles of his Kingdom are a nonviolent way to subvert earthly empires, which is precisely why some empires ban or highly regulate this Jesus stuff entirely (See China, North Korea, etc).

Jesus was seen as a threat to the religious conservative gatekeepers because all the people they declared would be excluded from God’s Kingdom became the first people Jesus invited in. In fact, Jesus went as far as warning them that they were actually the ones who would ultimately be excluded. Including the excluded while calling the highly religious to repent, was a threat to the entire religious structure.

And thus, the political authorities and religious gatekeepers became unlikely bedfellows in order to have Jesus silenced.

So yes– follow Jesus and you will be hated.

But you won’t be hated by sex workers, IRS agents, people with multiple failed marriages, alcoholics, or anyone else who knows that life can be messy and that there’s just no room to judge someone else’s story– because these people were the ones who loved Jesus most.

Instead, you’ll be hated by the political authorities who want to continue the status quo, the sword bearers who are not ready for Jesus’s command to put them down, the end times preachers who are laughing all the way to the bank at the expense of their congregations– and you’ll surely be hated by the conservative gatekeepers who are so busy drawing lines that they completely missed the fact that they drew themselves out in the process.

If you follow Jesus you’ll be loved by those who loved him, but hated by those who colluded to have him executed.

But if people think Jesus is awesome, but don’t like you because you’re judgmental, arrogant, and generally a jerk?

Well, that one’s not on Jesus– that one’s on you.

Picture of Benjamin L. Corey

Benjamin L. Corey

BLC is an author, speaker, scholar, and global traveler, who holds graduate degrees in Theology & Intercultural Studies from Gordon-Conwell, and earned his doctorate in Intercultural Studies from Fuller.

He is the author of Unafraid: Moving Beyond Fear-Based Faith, and Undiluted: Rediscovering the Radical Message of Jesus.

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9 Responses

  1. I may need your help. I’ve been doing research on gate io recently, and I’ve tried a lot of different things. Later, I read your article, and I think your way of writing has given me some innovative ideas, thank you very much.

  2. Um, HELLO? … Today’s IRS agents are full-blown agents of government, i.e., political authorities. Make a note.

    1. And actually, the IRS generally leans in favor of conservative religious groups, e.g. how often they turn a blind eye toward blatant political advocacy from the pulpit.

  3. To the article writer

    I did read the article also and found some passages for you to consider in your thinking that seems to be a bit off in smacking certain ppl while thinking others of a political persuasion is ‘free’ of wrongdoing in your comments if only by your omission. I will remind you that true believers don’t say things like ‘cling to their bibles’ in a negative way as a certain Liberal (Sadducee) President did not all that many years ago. Wouldn’t you agreee?
    Also, you seem to misunderstand that a whole lot of ‘everyday ppl’ want nothing to do with Jesus either. How do you not know this?

    (Luke 20:27) However, some of the Sadducees*(*Liberal/Progress Israelites/Jews of the day*)*, those who say there is no resurrection*(*these particular liberals didn’t believe other Scriptural truths either. Sound familiar?*)*, came and asked him:

    (Matthew 22:34-36) After the Pharisees*(*so-called ‘conservatives*)* heard that he had silenced the Sadducees*(*’liberal/progressives*)*, they came together in one group*(*they ‘united’ in one group against Jesus?*)*. 35 And one of them, versed in the *(*Mosaic*)* Law, tested him* by asking: 36 “Teacher*(*Jesus*)*, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”

    (Acts 4:1-3) While the two*(*apostles*)* were speaking to the people, the priests, the captain of the temple, and the Sadducees*(*Liberals*)* came up to them. 2 These WERE ANNOYED because the apostles were teaching the people and were openly declaring the resurrection of Jesus from the dead. 3 So they seized them and took them into custody until the next day, for it was already evening.
    As for any ‘Christian’ being ‘obnoxious’ or being a ‘jerk’ while speaking ob being ‘hated’, this is a bit of Scripture for you and them to keep in mind since being ‘hated’ doesn’t give us the ‘right’ or ‘excuse’ to conduct ourselves in inappropriate ways etc.

    (Matthew 7:12) “All things, therefore, that you want men to do to you, you also must do to them. This, in fact, is what the Law and the Prophets mean.

    (Matthew 22:37-40) He said to him: “‘You must love Jehovah your God with your whole heart and with your whole soul and with your whole mind.’ 38 This is the greatest and first commandment. 39 The second, like it, is this: ‘You must love your neighbor as yourself.’ 40 On these two commandments the whole Law hangs, and the Prophets.”

    (Colossians 4:6) Let your words always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should answer each person. -[RNWT

  4. Ultimately, many Christians end up hated– not because of Jesus– but because we’re too often jerks and completely unwilling to look at our own behavior.

    Sadly, a lot of my tribe (I am an atheist) behave the same way. And do not even have that particular verse of a ‘holy book’ to try and excuse their behavior.

    So – please fellow non-believers. Do not treat the religious as stupid and ignorant. They are neither for 99% of the cases. But all tribes have a lunatic fringe.

    Thanks Mr. Corey.

  5. I didn’t bother to read this stuff, because before I would waste my time someone is going to have to prove to me that old Jeebus really existed. Let me know when you can.

    1. This is a post by a Christian to fellow Christians. If you didn’t read it, it’s no big loss.

      It’s an interesting indictment from a group whose favorite argument is how actually reading things would lead to enlightenment.

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